Last year an anonymous note went around my moms group. Where it came from, or who originally wrote it, I don’t know. Being a mother of a child with a severe food allergy though made the note really resonate with me, and it made an impact with a lot of the other moms too. I think that when someone doesn’t have a connection with a problem that a child might have it’s hard for those people to understand them. Halloween is about the kids though, and every child should be able to go Trick-or-Treating and have a fun Halloween no matter if they have undeveloped skills, a disability, or a food allergy.
Here is what the note said:
With Halloween upon us, please keep in mind, a lot of little people will be visiting your home. Be accepting.
- The child who is grabbing more than one piece of candy may have poor fine motor skills.
- The child who takes forever to pick out one piece of candy may have motor planning issues.
- The child who does not say trick-or-treat or thank you may be non-verbal.
- The child who looks disappointed when they see your bowl might have an allergy or is diabetic.
- The child who isn’t wearing a costume might have a sensory issue (SPD) or autism.
Be nice. Be patient. It’s everyone’s Halloween.
On Halloween night I ask all of you to remember that Halloween isn’t an easy holiday for all kids. For some kids it is such a sensory overload that they can’t even handle it. You don’t have to do anything different, but be open and accepting of all the children that come to your door.
I will say that when buying Halloween candy you may want to think about those kids that can’t eat it all, and buy a bag of allergy safe candy. I personally do not buy anything that contains nuts or eggs. I don’t avoid all candy that is made in a factory that also makes nut products, but I do try to buy food allergy friendly candy. All types of children want to have fun on Halloween, and with just a little help on your part they can have that fun.
Thank you for remembering that it’s everyone’s Halloween.